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During These Years
Raising a baby, especially for the first time, is both exciting and challenging. This is a time for developing the bonds that will last a lifetime by providing the child with the inner resources to develop self-esteem and the ability to relate positively with others. It is also the time for parents to begin to discover who this new person really is. Each child is unique and it is imperative that parents learn to understand, respect, support and encourage the unique characteristics and abilities of each child.
Helpful Tips
Eighteen to Twenty-four months: Overview
During the next stage of life, your child is beginning to define himself. Look for child care activities that spur his imagination and vocabulary. During toddler years, children get into everything, so do your best to keep your child safe from a potential accident. Yet, realize accidents do happen, even to the most careful parents and children.
When looking for quality care for your toddler, consider:
- Is the child care setting safe and does it provide small group sizes and adult-to-child ratios?
- Are there enough toys and activities so sharing isn’t a problem?
- Are there a lot of toys for building which can be put together?
- Is there a dress-up area?
- Do art activities allow the children the freedom to make their own art or do all crafts look the same?
- And lastly, what are the toilet training and discipline practices of the provider?
When a child takes their first steps on their own, a new phase in development begins. At this stage, children are now free to roam around their world. It is a time for active exploration of their environment. Language development takes major leaps, which leads to learning the names of objects that interest them, and the ability to ask for things as they discover their independent nature. And yes, they even develop the ability to say “NO!”
During this developmental stage, a major challenge is developing what psychologists call “emotional regulation.” “Meltdowns” are common during this period, but parents can use the bond developed during infancy to help their child learn to modulate their emotional expression and begin to grasp the difficult concept of “delay of gratification.” While they instinctively seem to be able to say “no,” toddlers also need help in learning how to accept “no” from others.
This is also a stage of rapid physical and intellectual development. Parents prepare children starting school by teaching them to interact cooperatively with peers, while also being able to compete physically and intellectually. A child’s parent is in position to be a coach providing just the right combination of encouragement, support, and guidance. Parents also need to serve as their primary teachers for mastering basic learning skills, encouraging active discussion, and experimentation of new concepts and skills.
Helpful Tips
Three to Five years: Overview
During the preschool years, your child will be incredibly busy. Cutting, pasting, painting, and singing are all daily activities. When your child starts kindergarten around age five, make sure home and child care activities include learning numbers, letters, and simple directions. Most public school kindergarten programs are usually only a few hours a day. You may need care before and after school. It is never too early to begin your search.
When looking for quality care for your preschooler, consider:
- Are there other children the same age or close in age to your child?
- Is there space for climbing, running, and jumping?
- Are there books and learning activities to prepare your child for school?
- Is television and movie watching selective?
- Are learning materials and teaching styles age-appropriate and respectful of children’s cultural and ethnic heritage?
- Are caregivers experienced and trained in early childhood development?
- Are children given choices to do and learn things for themselves?
- Are children rushed to complete activities or tasks?
- Or are they given enough time to work at their own pace?
Your Child
What I’m Like | What I Need
What I’m Like: I can’t support my own head and I’m awake about one hour in every ten (though it may seem like more).
What I Need: I need milk, a smoke-free environment, a warm place to sleep, hugs and kisses, and to hear your loving voice. It’s not too early to sing or read to me. The more you talk and introduce different things to me, the more I learn.m dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.
What I’m Like: My hands and feet fascinate me. I’ll laugh and coo at them, and you. I’m alert for 15 minutes, maybe longer, at a time. I love to listen to you talk and read to me.
What I Need: Talk to me, feed me, and sing to me. My favorite songs are lullabies. Cuddle me. I need fresh air, a ride in a stroller. Give me things to pull and teethe on.
What I’m Like: I may be able to roll over and sit with support. I can hold my own toys. I babble and am alert for two hours at a time. I can eat most baby food. Put toys just out of my reach and I will try to reach them. I like to see what I look like and what I am doing.
What I Need: Make sure I’m safe as I’m learning to crawl. I need happy sounds, and I like to be near you. Dance with me, tickle me and tell me about the world you see.
What I’m Like: I’m busy! I like to explore everything! I crawl, sit, pull on furniture, grasp objects, and understand simple commands. I like to be with other babies and I react to their happiness and sadness.
What I Need: I need locks on cabinets with medicines, household cleaners, or other dangerous things. Put away small sharp objects. I need touch, nutritious food, and educational toys to keep me busy.
What I’m Like: I may be able to pull myself up and sidestep around furniture. I may begin walking. I make lots of sounds and say “Mama” and “Dada.” I’m curious about flowers, ants, grass, stones, bugs, and dirt. I like to get messy, that’s how I learn. My fingers want to touch everything. I like to play near others close to my age but not always with them. If I’m walking, please walk at my pace.
What I Need: I need lots of cuddling and encouragement. I need a safe place to move around as I will be getting into anything I can get my hands on. Read to me again and again. Sing our favorite songs. Give me freedom to do most things—until I need help. So please, stay near.
What I’m Like: I like to eat with a spoon, even if I spill. And I will spill, spill, and spill. I will explore everything high and low, so please keep me safe. I may have temper tantrums because I have no other way of expressing my feelings or frustrations. Sometimes I’m fearful and cling to you. I like to have evening routines: music, story, and bath time. I like balls, blocks, pull toys, push toys, take apart toys, put together toys, and cuddles. Sometimes I say “no” and mean it. By eighteen months I can walk well by myself, although I fall a lot. I may jump. I say lots of words, especially the word “mine”—because everything is mine! I like it when we play outside or go to a park. I like being with other children. I try to take off my shoes and socks. I like to build with blocks.
What I Need: Let me touch things. Let me try new things with your help if I need it. I need firm limits and consistency. Please give me praise. The more you talk with me, the earlier I will tell you how I feel and what I need. I need you to observe me and to understand why I’m upset or mad. I need your understanding and patience. I want a routine. I need you to not mind the mess I sometimes make. I need you to say I’m sorry if you made a mistake. And please read to me over and over again!
The Toddler’s Creed
If I want it, it’s mine. If I give it to you and change my mind later, it’s mine. If I take it away from you, it’s mine. If it’s mine it will never belong to anybody else, no matter what. If we are building something together, all the pieces are mine. If it looks just like mine, it’s mine.
What I’m Like: I am loving, affectionate, and responsive to others. I feel sorry or sad when others my age are upset. I may even like to please you. I don’t need you so close for protection, but please don’t go too far away. I may do the exact opposite of what you want. I may be rigid, not willing to wait or give in. I may even be bossy. “Me” is one of my favorite words. I may have fears, especially of sounds, separation, moving household objects, or that big dog.
What I Need: I need to continue exploring the world, down the block, the parks, library, and stores, etc. I like my routines. If you have to change them, do so slowly. I need you to notice what I do well and PRAISE me. Give me two OK choices to distract me when I begin to say “no.” I need you to be in control and make decisions when I’m unable to do so. I do better when you plan ahead. Be FIRM with me about the rules, but CALM when I forget or disagree. And please be patient because I am doing my best to please you, even though I may not act that way.
What I’m Like: Watch out! I am charged with physical energy. I do things on my own terms. My mind is a sponge. Reading and socializing are essential in getting me ready for school. I like to pretend a lot and enjoy scribbling on everything. I am full of questions, many of which are “Why?” I have become fairly reliable about using the potty. I may stay dry at night, or I may not. Playing and trying new things out are how I learn. Sometimes I like to share. I begin to listen more and begin to understand how to solve problems for myself.
What I Need: I want to know about everything and understand words, and when encouraged, I will use words instead of grabbing, crying, or pushing. Play with me, sing to me, and let’s pretend!
What I’m Like: I’m in an active stage, running, hopping, jumping, and climbing. I love to question “Why?” and “How?” I’m interested in numbers and the world around me. I enjoy playing with my friends. I like to be creative with my drawings, and I may like my pictures to be different from everyone else’s. I’m curious about “sleepovers” but am not sure if I’m ready yet. I may want to be just like my older sister or brother. I am proud that I am so BIG now!
What I Need: I need to explore, to try out, and to test limits. Giving me room to grow doesn’t mean letting me do everything. I need reasonable limits set for my own protection, as well as others’. Let me know clearly what is or isn’t to be expected. I need to learn give and take, and to play well with others. I need to be read to, talked to, and listened to. I need to be given choices and to learn things in my own way. Label objects and describe what’s happening to me so I can learn new words and things.
What I’m Like: I’m slowing a little in growth. I have good motor control, but my small muscles aren’t as developed as my large muscles for jumping. My activity level is high and my play has direction. I like writing my name, drawing pictures, making projects, and going to the library. I’m more interested now in doing group activities, sharing things and my feelings. I like quiet time away from the other kids from time to time. I may be anxious to begin kindergarten.
What I Need: I need the opportunity for plenty of active play. I need to do things for myself. I like to have choices in how I learn new things. But most of all, I need your love and assurance that I’m important. I need time, patience, understanding, and genuine attention. I am learning about who I am and how I fit in with others. I need to know how I am doing, in a positive way. I understand more about things and how they work, so you can give me a more detailed answer. I have a big imagination and pretend a lot. Although I’m becoming taller, your lap is still one of my favorite places.
During These Years
Raising a baby, especially for the first time, is both exciting and challenging. This is a time for developing the bonds that will last a lifetime by providing the child with the inner resources to develop self-esteem and the ability to relate positively with others. It is also the time for parents to begin to discover who this new person really is. Each child is unique and it is imperative that parents learn to understand, respect, support and encourage the unique characteristics and abilities of each child.
Helpful Tips
Eighteen to Twenty-four months: Overview
During the next stage of life, your child is beginning to define himself. Look for child care activities that spur his imagination and vocabulary. During toddler years, children get into everything, so do your best to keep your child safe from a potential accident. Yet, realize accidents do happen, even to the most careful parents and children.
When looking for quality care for your toddler, consider:
- Is the child care setting safe and does it provide small group sizes and adult-to-child ratios?
- Are there enough toys and activities so sharing isn’t a problem?
- Are there a lot of toys for building which can be put together?
- Is there a dress-up area?
- Do art activities allow the children the freedom to make their own art or do all crafts look the same?
- And lastly, what are the toilet training and discipline practices of the provider?
When a child takes their first steps on their own, a new phase in development begins. At this stage, children are now free to roam around their world. It is a time for active exploration of their environment. Language development takes major leaps, which leads to learning the names of objects that interest them, and the ability to ask for things as they discover their independent nature. And yes, they even develop the ability to say “NO!”
During this developmental stage, a major challenge is developing what psychologists call “emotional regulation.” “Meltdowns” are common during this period, but parents can use the bond developed during infancy to help their child learn to modulate their emotional expression and begin to grasp the difficult concept of “delay of gratification.” While they instinctively seem to be able to say “no,” toddlers also need help in learning how to accept “no” from others.
This is also a stage of rapid physical and intellectual development. Parents prepare children starting school by teaching them to interact cooperatively with peers, while also being able to compete physically and intellectually. A child’s parent is in position to be a coach providing just the right combination of encouragement, support, and guidance. Parents also need to serve as their primary teachers for mastering basic learning skills, encouraging active discussion, and experimentation of new concepts and skills.
Helpful Tips
Three to Five years: Overview
During the preschool years, your child will be incredibly busy. Cutting, pasting, painting, and singing are all daily activities. When your child starts kindergarten around age five, make sure home and child care activities include learning numbers, letters, and simple directions. Most public school kindergarten programs are usually only a few hours a day. You may need care before and after school. It is never too early to begin your search.
When looking for quality care for your preschooler, consider:
- Are there other children the same age or close in age to your child?
- Is there space for climbing, running, and jumping?
- Are there books and learning activities to prepare your child for school?
- Is television and movie watching selective?
- Are learning materials and teaching styles age-appropriate and respectful of children’s cultural and ethnic heritage?
- Are caregivers experienced and trained in early childhood development?
- Are children given choices to do and learn things for themselves?
- Are children rushed to complete activities or tasks?
- Or are they given enough time to work at their own pace?
Freshman: Ages and Stages
Physical Growth
- Gain about ½ to 1 ½ pounds of weight each week for the first 6 months.
- Height gain of about one inch each month.
- Breaths mostly through the nose.
- Not able to hold their head up in the first month. Can turn head from side to side when lying on back. Lifts head by the second month.
- Body will be limp at knees and hips when held standing by their parents.
- When the parent supports their back, they will round back by the second month. Will also try to hold their head up, but will still bob forward.
- In the first month they will keep their hands closed tightly. By the second month they will often open hands and grasp.
Mental/Emotional Growth
- Watches an object when held at a distance of 8-15 inches. By two months they will follow the toy from side to side.
- Likes when people respond with their face (e.g. smile back at them).
- Will be quiet when hearing their parents’ voice by two months. Knows familiar voices.
- Cries during the first month to show when hungry, wet, or uncomfortable.
Social Growth
- Closely watches parents’ faces when they play with him/her.
- By the second month they can mimic their parents’ faces (e.g. smiling and sticking out tongue).
Tips to Help Your Child Grow
- Hold, cuddle, rock, talk, sing, hug, and kiss your baby often to make him/her feel safe.
- Try to console and comfort your baby even though your baby might not always calm down.
- If you can’t spend a lot of time with your baby, play, talk, and sing during his alert stages (dressing, bathing, feeding, walking, driving) because it is more fun for the both of you.
- Create routines and habits when you wash, feed, and put your baby to bed. Your baby will learn to rely on you and sleep better at night.
- Use toys that are right for your baby’s age.
- Talk with your baby’s doctor if you have any questions about how your baby is growing. Don’t be afraid to talk about how you are doing as a dad.
